Lent Milestone

The season of Lent prepares us to remember Jesus’ death and resurrection. It is a reflective time to consider how we live–what we would like to change, what we would like to keep. The goal of Lent is to reorient our life on God.

Lent is one of the oldest parts of the Church calendar, originating very early on as a period of preparation for baptismal candidates who would be baptized at Easter Vigil. Over time, it was expanded to be a time of repentance for those who had fallen away from the church and wanted to come back. Then it became a time of repentance for everyone in the church. While it still has this flavor of repentance, Lent is so much more than just repentance.

Lent is described as the 40 days before Easter, but that is not quite accurate. It is the 40 days before, not counting Sundays (Sundays are not considered part of the lenten fast). It is the only season that doesn’t begin on a Sunday. Instead it begins on Ash Wednesday and stretches to the Saturday before Easter. Because Easter moves around, the start of Lent also moves back and forth.

Lenten Seasonal Suggestions
  • The color for Lent is Purple. Purple reminds us how the Soldiers put a purple garment on Jesus before his crucifixion. It also has become the color of repentance and reflection.
    • Consider using a purple cloth or placemat to provide a center for family devotions.
    • Hanging a purple bow on the door might help remind you of Lent as you leave and enter the house.
  • Consider using the following Lenten Prayer, inspired by Psalm 51, during devotions:
    Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirt within me. Remind me of where I have done something wrong today and help me to fix it tomorrow. For in all things you are my forgiveness and my strength.
Lenten Themes
  • Baptism. Perhaps the oldest theme of Lent is Baptism. In the Early Church, baptisms were often done once a year at the Easter Vigil. As candidates made preparation for their baptism, the whole church was invited to remember their baptism. Watch for water and baptismal themes in the Bible readings during Lent. You may wish to set a time for Baptismal Remembrance during your Family Devotions.
  • Repentance. We all make mistakes. The Apostle Paul once wrote, “I do not do what I want, but the very thing I hate.” Repentance doesn’t mean beating ourselves up for our mistakes. Rather we acknowledge our mistakes before God, knowing that God will forgive us like a loving parent. In the church, we call mistakes sins. A sin is anything that separates us from God, each other, Creation, or our selves. Sometimes they are within our control and often they are beyond. During Lent, it is important to remember that Repentance is not the same as feeling guilty or blaming ourselves. Instead we consider our actions (and when we haven’t acted), how they impact others, and ask forgiveness, so that we can set them behind us, free to try again.
  • Self-Denial. The idea of giving something up for Lent became a very popular theme during the Middle Ages and continues today. Lent is known as a fast. In some Christian traditions, the faithful fast from eating meat. Others choose something to give up for Lent. If you choose to do this, it’s important to remember that the main reason for giving something up is not self-improvement (giving up fattening food so as to loose wait), but focus on God. Sometimes it can be both, but the main goal of self-denial is focus on God. By denying ourselves something during Lent, we can remind ourselves that there is something more important than ourselves in life. This little sacrifice helps remind us of Jesus’ big sacrifice for us.
  • Reflection. All the previously mentioned themes natural invite us to reflect. In Lent, reflection invites us to consider our life, actions, choices, and thoughts. Where do they point toward God and where do they lead us away. It’s an opportunity to take spiritual stock of our lives.
  • Prayer. Prayer is an important part of our daily spiritual life. It is also a theme in Lent. Prayer helps us with our reflection, reorients us toward God, and is the primary tool for connecting with God. Lent is a perfect time to try a new prayer practice or way to pray.
  • Spiritual Discipline. In recent years, many have opted to take something up for Lent rather than give something up. Considering a spiritual disciple is a good way to take something up. A spiritual disciple is anything that helps us focus on God in our life. Traditionally they include things like prayer, meditation, scripture reading, service, fasting, and devotions. Some have made exercise, gardening, and other pastimes into spiritual disciplines by adding an element of prayer or scripture to them. Trying a new spiritual discipline can be a nice way to observe Lent.
Lent at Home

Lent is filled with opportunities to explore at home. Here are a few suggestions. Some of the themes and content of Lent can seem pretty sophisticated for small children but there are ways to help them experience Lent too. Suggestions are divided into the four key practices of faith.

Caring Conversations

Caring conversations are built around listening to each other. Lent can be a good time to develop and practice good listening skills in your household.

  • Conversation starters are always available in Taking Faith Home and the weekly Chimes. In addition here are a few starters with a lenten theme.
    • Share a time when you had to give up (sacrifice) something for someone else.
    • Share a time when someone made a sacrifice for you.
    • How does it make you feel to think that God loves you enough to make a sacrifice for you?
  • If you gave up or took on something for Lent. Periodically through the season have a conversation about how it is going.
    • What has been difficult about what you’re doing?
    • What have you learned or felt by doing it?
  • If your household has a hard time waiting to speak, making a talking stick might be helpful. This Native American practice helps us honor the person who is speaking and listen to them.
    • It can be any stick or object. A family activity can be decorating it.
    • Remind everyone that only the person with the talking stick is allowed to speak. The rest have to listen.
  • Practice asking questions after someone has shared. Questions show that we were listening and that we are interested in what the other shared. Some good questions to ask might be:
    • How did it make you feel when ______________ happened?
    • What happened when you did _________________________?
    • How did others responded when you ________________?
    • What was your favorite/saddest part of what happened?
  • Sometimes someone’s story reminds us of a similar experience. Wait to share your own experience until the initial person is done sharing.
Devotions
  • Create a focal point for family devotions. Include something purple and perhaps a symbol for Holy Week, like a crown of thorns, a nail, a whip, or a stone to remind us of Jesus’ tomb.
  • Lent can be a very good time to focus on one of the learning milestones. Choose one of the following and ask for the resources from the church.
    • Learning the Lord’s Prayer
    • Learning the Apostle’s Creed
    • Learning the 10 Commandments
    • First Communion
  • Pick a time during Lent to remember baptism. A special Baptismal remembrance milestone is available at the church.
Service
  • Make a set of prayer cards.
    • using small cards write the names of people connected to your household, animals you are concerned about, other things you worry about.
    • In your devotions and prayer times, flip through the cards and pray for the name you see. Be as specific as possible.
    • Take the time to write that person a note, call them, or do something kind for them.
  • If you choose to give something up for Lent, turn it in to a gift
    • Donate the money you might save from giving something up to a charity, the church, or the food pantry.
    • Use the time you have from giving something up to do something nice for someone else or volunteer.
Rituals & Traditions
  • Before Lent begins have a conversation with everyone in your household about how you are going to observe it. Decide if you’re going to take on a spiritual practice or give something up.
    • Some things to consider giving up: social media, watching TV, a favorite food, one meal each day, a favorite activity, chocolate and sweets, saying “O my God”. For children some suggestions might be giving up a special toy or game for the season or a favorite food. It’s important to let everyone choose for themselves, otherwise it feels like a punishment. Remind them that we’re giving it up for a short time to focus on God and express our love for God.
    • Some things to consider taking on: a prayer practice, memorizing a Bible verse, family devotions, planing a service project (like collecting food for the food pantry), exploring physical spirituality (healthy eating, exercise), Bible study, daily prayer, mid-week worship.
  • Plant some seeds together.
  • Learn to make the sign of the cross
Lent at Church

There are several different ways that Lent is observed at church. Choosing to participate in one or more of these can help enrich your observance of the season.

Please see the seasonal worship post about Lent for details about what is being offered this year.

  • Ash Wednesday. The beginning of Lent is marked by an evening service that invites us into the observance of Lent. In this service we are invited to reflect upon our own mortality as a way of remembering that while humanity is temporary, God is forever. A memorable part of the service is the imposition of ashes, when an ash cross is made on each person’s forehead.
  • Mid-Week Lenten worship. Wednesday nights during Lent we gather for prayer and reflective worship. Many choose this as a regular lenten devotion.
  • Morning & Evening Prayer. During Lent we engage in special prayers for moving and evening. Often a prayer book is published by our church so that you can join in the responses.
  • Holy Week. The final week of Lent is known as Holy Week. During this week we journey with Jesus through the final week before his crucifixion and resurrection. There are several special opportunities during this week. The Worship during this week includes several experiential and visual elements that help children and adults engage with the story.
    • Palm/Passion Sunday. The week begins by remember Jesus’ triumphal entry into Jerusalem. Amid waving palms we celebrate but also remember where this journey leads, to his passion and death.
    • Maundy Thursday. On this evening we recall the story of the Last Supper and how Jesus both washed the disciple’s feet and instituted Holy Communion.
    • Good Friday. The day of Jesus’ crucifixion. In worship, we remember his passion and death and grieve for Jesus.
    • Easter Vigil. On Saturday night, the eve of Easter, we gather for the first celebration of the resurrection. During Easter Vigil, we retell the stories that remind us of how God has worked through history, remember our Baptism, and then announce the resurrection.
    • Easter Day. Holy Week moves into the Easter Celebration.